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There is Beauty in Everyone

Towed Car: I have never had a car towed until this April. And, I believe that the city I live in was towing cars and putting up "Do Not Park Here Signs" Illegally. Therefore, I had a hearing with the city at the end of June of this year and met a man who really raised my spirits and positivity level, which I already try to keep high.  The man had a booming, deep voice and pictures of him participating in wheelchair tennis and wheelchair basketball. I asked him about him competing and he explained that he had been doing so since he got injured.   What a great man he is! He got injured and thought about what he could do not what he couldn't do. He also had a poster next to his desk that read, "The only disability is a negative attitude."  This man has taught me that positivity is a must as well as my attitude. - Thank you Daniel 

Compliment & Make it Sincere

Written from a male perspective: Don't * You're pretty * Great body  * Get to know the person before paying them a compliment. A straight up compliment sends a pick up line message, whereas if you get to know the person you're going to compliment it sounds as if you are genuinely interested in them. * It is human nature to seek and desire attention. Be the one who gives it to them. * If you're around your family or friends don't interrupt their conversations, but find out what they are interested in. Do's * Make a point to know everybody's birthday you care about and call them on the day. * If someone has beautiful red hair talk about how great their tennis game is and at a later date mention their hair. * Your energy is so positive today, I love it. * Introduce randome strangers who you've just met at social gatherings. * Show that you are knowledgeable. In life, it's important to be positive and to prove that ...

Theme of Blog Change from Philosophical to My Life

As readers of this blog may know by now I have a rare physical medical condition, which has given me a unique perspective to how we live our lives and what I believe is important.  When I reflect, I've realized that I write with the goal of having a conversation. And, I understand that me writing about philosophy, is one sided. I have made the decision to write about my life, and hopefully you will form your own opinions and converse with me.  Right now the major aspects/goals I have are: connecting with a woman, finding a job: while I'm an entrepreneur at heart, I cannot put the energy forth needed to start and run a business, following my love of sports, and remaining active in my physical pursuits. While I write, I hope you will share your thoughts, opinions, goals, and inner thoughts with me. I will not share your information with anyone unless you ask me too. Also, I love to read, watch movies, and learn about new ideas so please share them with me.  Let's start ...

Making Real Change the Name of Your Game

We all want it, say it, talk about doing it, know we have the power to do it, but ultimately, what do we do, we wait.  Yes, I'm talking about making a change in our lives, the kind of change that lasts.  For me, it really hit home while I was in Lake Tahoe this past July.  The birds were chirping, the air was fresh, and I couldn't be happier. And then I began to think, why is this?  Well, as the saying goes, "the early bird gets the worm."  While this might be true for some (I'm in this mix), there are other animals who roam the Tahoe night, though much fewer of them. So how does a human such as myself see more of the day; Go to sleep earlier, right? Well, it's a lot easier said than done. You have to begin with changing your daily and evening habits. Keep a sleep journal and identify what your sleep need is in terms of hours. Next, it's time to define when you do your best work, exercise, reading, relaxing, meditating and so on. The idea here is, once y...

Vocabulary in Our Inner Dialogue

The term "Bucket List" has been adopted by the general public as things we do before we die. If one kicks the bucket, that means he or she dies. So, how negative is this term? Why would anyone want to be thinking about death? It is probably the top fear we all have.  Let's eliminate it from our vocabulary. My friend mentioned that he wants to drive a Ferrari before he dies. Well, it's on his "bucket list." If I could change his or anyones internal thought process it would be something like this. "I will find an owner of a Ferrari in the next 6 months and find a way to drive the car."  We shouldn't have bucket lists. I also never understand why we want to know what others do for an occupation. To me, it's important to know their interests. Do we have anything in common? A simple smile, hand shake and good eye contact separates those I immediately like from those who aren't worth talking to. A great t-shirt, hat, or haircut will certa...

The Meaning of Questions

All of us seem to have a need for limitless information. If we don't know the answer to a question we immediately go to Google. And, who is the most guilty of this? It's easy for me to jump on the media, and I will. To me, questions should be asked for the sake of acquiring information that is necessary for present or future factual reporting. This includes writing down medications one takes, family members for estate planning, historic questions, and many many more. The problem is, that we all seem to act as experts even if we have no training. I am guilty, as everyone else. For example, why are gossip magazines, meaningless blogs (does mine fall into that cateragory), and countless Online Journals popping up all over the Internet? The object of a question is to get an answer, right? Well, what if you were blatantly lied to all the time? I don't think we could live in such a society as it would create anarchy. On Wednesday of this week I took a fall and face-planted on...

What's Energizes You?

I can tell you that anyone who is going to be a part of, or already in my family, loves food and large family get-togethers.  For my parents it's a way of keeping our Jewish culture alive and well. As an atheist/agnostic, deist Jew, it's just the way things are. When my sister-in-law was first introduced as my brother's girlfriend, she was inundated with family events. She didn't handle it. I view that as a passive aggressive term for getting by, but embraced everything. I am the luckiest guy in the world because I look at her with the same love as I would a sister. And, I only have a biological brother. What a champion she is! Our family is so close to each other, and so large that I don't even bother explaining how I'm related to someone I just meet anymore. If I don't recognize someone, I just proclaim "welcome to the family."  It's the truth. We make excuses to get together. Why not? If I am in the area I'll stop by someone's hous...